Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Death from the Choking Game. Why Be Bitter?

Why Be Bitter?

By Cindy Loven

In our story, Swept Away (releasing November 18th from Abingdon House) Sara Jane Morgan was an orphan, her parents died when she was just twelve years old. For years their death and the circumstances around their death shaped Sara.

Just as the fictional story shaped Sara and made her who she was, our life stories shape us. In our story, Sara had to choose whether she would allow her life to be bitter. We each face things in our lives that bring us to this decision. Loss of jobs, loss of friends, loss of family members.

Five and half years ago my youngest son died, playing the choking game. To help myself, handle the grief I strived to help parents learn more about this dangerous game. (For more info visit this site http://gaspinfo.com/en/home.html)

We never know from day to day, what life brings us. My son's death brought new friends into my life, friends who too have walked the path of a grieving parent. People I may have never known if my son hadn't died.

I have always been a people watcher, so I have observed these friends, each of them faced with the choice, to be be bitter. Some of them immediately chose not to live with bitterness in their hearts, but too often it is easy to become bitter. Questions are normal, grief is normal, and all of us grieve differently. Yes we have all read the five stages of grief, and none of us can say we grieved the same way. Don't let life and the circumstances surrounding you, make you bitter. Yes it is true I probably do not know what you deal with on a daily basis, nor have I walked in your shoes. The same can be said for my shoes too, we each have the choice to make. Why be bitter? There is a balance in life that often is hard to find. Choose not to be bitter.

My son would be twenty in just a few days, (27th) it is easy to wonder and ask the “what if” questions. What if he hadn't died?  What would he be like? Would he still be that loveable happy kid? I will never know those answers, but I do know where he is. He loved the Lord and I am sure he is in Heaven, with other family members gone on.
 
Today I choose not to be bitter.Swept Away Blurb:
He survived a life-altering event. She is facing one.
Sara Jane Morgan is trying to balance teaching with caring for her grandmother who doesn’t want to be cared for. When school lets out for the summer, the plans are for Grandma to teach Sara Jane to quilt as they finish up the Appalachian Ballad quilt Grandma started as a teenager. But things don’t always go as planned.
Andrew Stevenson is hiding from his past—and his future. He works as a handyman to pay the bills, but also as an artisan, designing homemade brooms. When Sara Jane’s grandmother hires him to renovate her home, sparks fly between him and his new employer’s granddaughter.
It doesn’t take Sara Jane long to see Drew isn’t what he seems. Questions arise, and she starts online researching him. What she discovers could change her life—and her heart—forever.
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BIO:
Cindy Loven, an avid reader all her life, is seeing her dreams fulfilled, with the publication of her first novel, Swept Away Quilt of Love.  She co-authored this novel with Laura V. Hilton.  Born and raised in Arkansas, she loves her home state and is happy to live there with her husband of nearly twenty-nine years and her adult son. She and her family are very active in their local church, serving in many volunteer positions. She and her husband are very serious about informing parents about the dangers of the choking, after loosing their youngest son to this dreadful 'game' in 2009.  When not busy with church or her job as a “pr gal” for another author, you can find Cindy in her craft room, ,sewing, crocheting or making cards.
Where to find me on the web:
Twitter handle: @cndloven

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