By Ada Brownell
Some politicians and the media would have us to believe abortion and free birth control are at the top of a woman’s priorities.
Wrong. No matter how many polls support those ideas, women are much wiser and have wider and higher goals than that. At least I would hope so.
First and foremost, a woman wants to be loved. Perhaps that’s why too many today sidestep their common sense and believe having an attractive body and men chasing them for a night in bed is ultimate success. But what a wise woman really wants is a man who falls in love with who she is and will love her, forsaking all others, through financial trouble, sickness, the challenges children bring, and having someone at their side to enjoy wonders of life.
My husband and I have been married 63 years in October. Although many bumps in the road could have wrecked our marriage, we survived and the love, commitment and endurance of the marriage have been worth it. The effect of a stable home on our children is priceless.
In contrast, too many women today are becoming sexually active at a young age, some are promiscuous or living with a “significant other” instead of getting married first. Then they wonder why the guy who says he’s her “fiancé” never marries her.
This is the age when women scream for “choice” but here are some of the things they don’t know they’re choosing. The Center for Disease Control’s 2010 report on Sexually Transmitted Diseases identified STDs as one of the most critical health challenges facing our nation, with 19 million new infections each year, costing the health care system $17 billion.
When women submit to a misnamed “lover,” they don’t expect the misery and shame caused by herpes (incurable), the cancers caused by human papilloma virus, the infertility caused by Chlamydia, liver failure from hepatitis B and C, and risks of AIDS. They don’t consider the hard life that results from an unwed pregnancy, the guilt of abortion, emotional problems connected to loving someone who doesn’t love you enough to marry you and take responsibility for the children; suicide risk because of the resulting hopelessness; the risk of alcoholism and drug addiction to mask emotional pain; and possible abuse or murder from a jealous “lover.”
Beneath the cry for “choice,” instinctively women know love is far more intense than lust. Lust may last for a few moments, a few nights, or maybe even a few years. But love, especially when deepened by God’s supernatural love and a marriage commitment, endures for a lifetime, through every disagreement, beyond outward beauty, into every heartache, every sickness, every financial crisis, every disappointment, every loss, and even in death.
Genuine love is what most women want, but they won’t get it selfishly seeking after “choice.” Thinking ladies will look way beyond that when deciding who will get their vote.
The future holds so much for women, but it starts with knowing God, His love, and tapping into His supernatural love, wisdom, strength and beauty. God has the future in His hands, and although politicians can influence society, the nation, and affect what women do, God is much greater. When we submit to Him, He will direct our feet.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Ada Brownell is a retired reporter for The Pueblo Chieftain and the author of seven books, including the recently released novel, Peach Blossom Rancher. https://www.amazon.com/author/adabrownellhttps://www.amazon.com/author/adabrownell