Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Controlling Anger: What's Inside?

By Ronda Knuth

“. . . the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Matthew 12:34b (NIV)
When angry, are you a stewer or a spewer? Both, unmanaged, can turn your world on end.  
It fell to me to teach each of my four children how to drive. We spent many an hour in the local cemetery driving up and down the streets that ran between the headstones. We practiced right turns, left turns, merging, and U-turns. With little traffic, going the wrong way on a one-way street wasn’t such a big deal.
It was the perfect place to learn. Once we had the basics down, we took it to neighborhood streets, then the dreaded freeway. It’s been years since my eldest son Paul was the pupil and I the teacher. Even now, he says, that there are times when he is driving and my words come to him, “Preferring one another in love, son. Preferring one another.” (Romans 12:10)
Ronda Knuth

Getting a handle on anger is a prerequisite for safe driving. It’s important for non-toxic living too. Failure to control internal anger will eat you alive. Failure to control external anger will eat others alive.
Dr. Ravi Zacharias, who grew up in New Delhi, India, tells a story about his father, who was well known in the city where they lived – some esteemed him, others knew him for his volatile temper. One evening he exploded in a fit of anger. His wife and children bore the brunt of his rage.
A teen, Ravi thought they should go to a neighbor for help. Mother said no. She did not want to harm her husband’s reputation. She chose, instead, to quietly bear the discomfort. She believed that, “When your basket is bumped, what spills out defines your character.”
What’s in your basket?
Scripture has much to say about anger:
"A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control." (Proverbs 29:11)
"In your anger do not sin; do not let the sun go down while you are still angry." Ephesians 4:26 (NIV)
"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger ... along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV)
“[Act on What You Hear] Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear. God’s righteousness doesn’t grow from human anger. So throw all spoiled virtue and cancerous evil in the garbage. In simple humility, let our gardener, God, landscape you with the Word, making a salvation-garden of your life.” James 1:21 MSG
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 (NIV)
How well do you handle anger? If I bumped your basket today, what would spill out? 


“Kind words heal and help; cutting words wound and maim. (Proverbs 15:4). Let the words of my mouth and mediation of my heart be acceptable in your sight Lord. You are my strength and my 
redeemer. (Psalm 19:14). Amen”

-- Reprinted with permission from The Way: Christianity Without Walls

Ronda Knuth lives in Lakewood, CO, with her husband Rob. She is a mother of four, grandmother of four, and mother-in-love of three.
Ronda is a freelance writer and a regular contributor to the Network 211.com, with many articles published on their Global Christian Center website. She is also a regular contributor in the United Kingdom, to The Way.co.uk on their subscription service daily devotionals; published online.
Ronda Knuth received the Sunrise Senior Living 2013 Western Region ‘Joy in Service Award’, The company recognized her dedication, to making the Sunrise Senior Living at Pinehurst Denver, Colorado, residents’ lives the happiest and best they can be. Her first published book, When Memory Fades: Sunrise Stories from Real People, is available in both print and Kindle editions.
Her second book, Breathe: This Too Shall Pass is also available in both print and Kindle editions.
“In Breathe: This Too Shall Pass, Ronda has captured the isolation that so many of us feel in life’s experiences, and reminded us we are not alone. We can take the encouragement of this book, and find a resolve, that can lead us through the circumstances that seem to overwhelm us.”- Dr. Vince Gappa
Her personal life story has been told in, "The Unmasking: Married to a Rapist" by author Kevin Flynn and in "The Triumph Book: Stories of Tragedy Turned into Triumph" by author Melanie Davis. Learn more about Ronda at her website: http://rondasrestingplace.net